Putting your fears aside and admitting that you want to improve yourself is a huge step. What follows are a few personal development tips that you can put into practice all by yourself.
Incorporate your belief system into daily living. Everyone has values and beliefs in which they hold dear. You will be able to feel proud of yourself if you do not make compromises and follow your values. Truly practicing these principles you believe in will give integrity to your character.
You should know the values that bear importance to you prior to planning a self improvement program. Trying to change yourself in ways that are not in line with your values, is not a good idea. Spend your energy and time on those areas that you want to better and that mesh well with your values. Consider each change a permanent improvement to your lifestyle.
One way to raise your self-esteem is to give other people compliments. Being nice to others will help you learn to be nicer to yourself.
Pick up a pen and paper, and write yourself a positive letter. On a postcard, write down all of your best qualities. Carry this list with you at all times, and take it out when you need to pick yourself up. You can even record yourself reading it aloud and listen to it often. What are the benefits of this?
For individuals with more severe problems, the ideal solution may be therapy. While self-help books can be helpful, a therapist can propose targeted, customized advice to help you achieve your goals. There are many times when talking with another person about a stressful situation is the most effective route to relaxation. Books are unable to open a discussion with the reader that a psychiatrist can.
You should always treat everyone with respect, regardless of who they are or what they are able to do for you. Treating people badly as a matter of principle reflects a bad personality on your part rather than theirs.
Once you have tried these suggestions, log any mental or emotional changes. Never think of yourself as a failure.