The first, and scariest, step in any self-improvement program is admitting that you’re falling short of being the person you want to be, or of achieving what you want to achieve. Here are a few self-help tips to give you an idea of what you can try.
Tell other people positive things. If you are kind to other people, you will be kind to yourself.
It helps to see your good points in writing. Write down everything you like about yourself. Put this list up on a wall, or carry it with you. Better yet, videotape yourself reading it aloud and view the video frequently. For what reason?
Unless you take care of yourself, you won’t be able to care for anyone else. Whether you’re just starting your personal development plan or are well down the road and regardless of whether you’re succeeding or failing, you have to set aside time for yourself to rest, relax, and regroup.
Therapy is the answer for many with serious problems. Although many can be helped by self help books, often a personal touch or human interaction can be more effective. Success is sometimes motivated by being helped through simply talking. There is no way to have an open discussion with a book, though you can with a therapist.
You may find it helpful to discuss your issues with a counselor or other trusted professional, such as your pastor. These professionals are equipped to discuss very deep, emotional issues and often have many years of experience. They are able to look into your life from the outside and analyze things you can’t see. Taking the time to talk out your problems is very beneficial for your mental health, and having someone to bounce your ideas off makes it even better.
Be respectful no matter how much, or how little, power the people you talk to wield over you. The way you treat them says more about you than it does about them.
Use these tips to start with and analyze your progress, thoughts and what changes that you feel. Don’t be too hard on yourself.